Many people tell me they wish to get rid of their pain. First, you must understand the language of your pain. Make friends with your pain, and understand it as you would learn to understand the cries of a small infant. You may become incensed by this language. However, you have to be fully with an infant and listen deeply enough, to experience the nuances of what will comfort and soothe the infant when it cries. There are times the infant seems inconsolable, and the parent or person looking after it has tried everything. The infant is still restless and crying. This makes the caregiver and the infant irritated and frustrated. The caregiver is trying to shift the state of the infant without fully being in love and present with the fullness of the infants condition. Once the caregiver gives up all the techniques, gives up their frustrations, and simply settles in with the infant's current state, the energy changes and the infant becomes quieter trusting in the loving presence of the one who holds it...
If this makes sense to you, be a loving presence to your pain and listen deeply to the nuances of it's expression.